There’s a discontentment stirring and occurring amidst feelings of languishing, boredom, and overall frustration with the circumstances of the world as it stands right now. (Cut to everyone doom scrolling while simultaneously imagining they can be the next TikTok star) It’s causing things like the very seriously-named “Great Resignation” where millions of Americans are leaving […]
When quitting your job *is* the responsible choice…
It wasn’t the 9am to 5pm part of my 9-5 job that didn’t work for me. Nope. Despite what many “creative types” often lament about…for me, it actually wasn’t early morning status meetings or even the ceremonial closing of the laptop at night (hoping I wouldn’t get an after-hours email). Those are actually things I […]
‘Tis the Season to Be Triggered
You know that the minute you go “home for the holidays” the triggers are coming. Even the most independent, mature, and responsible of us can get easily triggered by our family members. Beyond truly serious family dynamics (abuse – physical or emotional, addiction, verbal altercations and beyond) – which I will not be touching on […]
Why aren’t I different yet??!
We all hear about people’s transformations. Their huge life change. Their inner growth. “Transformation” is a borderline buzz word now, and it’s starting to get drowned out by a sea of self help gurus. But there’s a dirty truth about transformation. IT’S ACTUALLY DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE. Different schedule. Different execution. Different. Sucks right? As life […]
[ emotional procrastination ]
Like many high-performing, badass women, I “ain’t got time” for most things. Close-mindedness Slow walkers Fuckboys The patriarchy Your bullshit But sometimes…I even don’t have time to emote. I can feel tears welling or an old wound reopened, but everyone now and again…I save it for later. Like a bag of M&Ms that takes me a […]
Please. Check on your strong friend.
In light (or dark, depending on how you look at it), of a teen Parkland Shooting survivor dying from suicide last weekend…I feel the need to bring up a pretty important topic. CHECK ON YOUR STRONG FRIEND. Do it now. Do it tomorrow. Do it often. For they carry the weight of the world most […]
Movie Montage Syndrome (and how to fix it)
Let’s admit it. We all want the movie montage. To the next big thing. Personal milestones like: The dream job. The finished project. The Instagram following (woof). Or even lifetime milestones we feel pressure about: Meeting the perfect partner. The wedding. The kids? (and not everyone wants that, btw) Sometimes it’s to skip ahead to […]
RE: FWD: Emotions at Work
“Behind every great woman, there is a friend re-reading her email to make sure it sounds professional.” This is a post/tweet/meme I’ve seen circulating for years now. And it’s true. As women, we scrutinize and analyze our communications in the workplace to ensure they are devoid of emotion. We take out expletives when we’re writing […]
The Bitter Empath
You walk into a room. A party. A restaurant. And you read it. You see the writing on the wall. The forest from the trees. You can sense if the mood is good. If it’s sour. If someone is holding back tears. And then you calibrate. Like a machine going into overdrive, your empathic brain […]
Shine on.
I’ve just finished the in-flight crossword. I typically finish it by the time we’ve reached a cruising altitude – it’s the first thing I do on every flight. This being at least the 12th plane I’ve been on this year, I’ve started to notice the things I do every time. Mini rituals that make flying […]